"Telling the Truth to Your Adopted or Foster Child: Making Sense of the Past", by Betsy Keefer and Jayne E. Schooler

Pros:
• Exceptional tools
• Addresses the toughest situations
• A how-to for truth with love

Cons:
• Few references for talking with disabled kids

Summary: An exceptional book that helps adoptive and foster parents understand why the whole truth is important and how to talk about it.

Review: Healing and Bonding With Truth

The authors are very clear: our kids come first. And if the truth make us uncomfortable, here are the tools to help. The book begins with an exploration of the damage secrets can do to families, to relationships, to individuals - to our children. We are challenged to face our own insecurities and fears in order to tell our children the truth with age appropriate tools; to help us start and expand discussions as their ability to understand words and concepts grows. And this book covers them all - death, rape, incest, crime, drugs, mental illness, abandonment - words that hurt every parent's heart and move us to shelter and protect through silence. The lesson of this book is that shelter and protection are truly found in truth.

Available in print or as an audio book.